Relic120 u r a lifesaver i changed the ifps in the .conf files and at first it wouldnt work because i couldnt find where i needed the change the ips in the database but i eventually found it and it works now thanks alot man that shit was driving me nuts but for any1 else that has the realm list loop problem heres what u do to fix it:

change the ips in realmd.conf manfosd.conf and scriptdev2.conf that say 127.0.0.1 to your actual ip address if ur not sure what ur ip is go to command prompt and type ipconfig to find out then use navicat or whatever database editor u got and change the ip in mangos/realmd/realmlist to ur ip and it should work

also iquest xp works fine for me
dorito im sorry if i made u angry at me being a "****" but i wasnt aware that port forwarding was necessary for connections that are staying in the lan or that u could even forward a port in the lan to the lan probably why i didnt forward any ports and it worked after following Relic120's advice but thanks anyway im sure u were just trying to help and maybe got confused or something im sure it probably gets annoying trying to solve ppls problems on a forum all the time.
no hard feelings