It'd be easier for us to help you if you posted your config files here, so we can look for mistakes. If you are absolutely certain there are no mistakes in them I advise you to follow #2's advice.



#3 It is not necessary to change the realmlist yourself if you are running it on the computer you are playing, it can remain 127.0.0.1 although you have setup a special dns for others to connect on, just informing.